No understanding for Transsexuals in society

The life, Experience & Hopes of a TS Female.

The internal struggle/fight.
TS men & women are born with an internal struggle/fight with one’s own biological & mind gender, which can last many years & can only have 3 possible outcomes: -
1/ Continue to live a fraudulent lie not only to oneself, but also to everyone else they love or know, therefore continuing to conform to societies expectations of a genetic fe/male. This continued fraudulent lie will eventually lead to more problems & complications than resolving them.
2/ Accepting oneself for who they really are & living with the risk of not only losing one’s family, (being told your being selfish & only thinking of yourself); loved ones, friends, work colleges but also their accommodation, employment & financial means of support; but more importantly living with many risks associated with being a TS such as transphobic abuse; hate; violence (domestic, verbal, physical, emotionally or s*xually); but even greater the risk of being killed transphobically.
3/ Suicide, which would not only be more traumatic for family, loved ones, friends & work colleges, who with not only coping with their own grief, loss & pain but also wondering/asking questions of whether they could of done anything to not only stop/prevent it.

Life & Experience of a TSFemale.
As a TS child, life was not only hard with trying to please the family in doing things that they thought a biological male should do, but also in trying to hide & prevent the family from finding out that her mind is really that of a female, who’s fondest wish was to be treated & dressed as a girl, who would eventually grow up & have her own children & be a genetic mother. Although afraid & ashamed to let her parents know for fear of how they would react or treat her. Her greatest fear & concerns were that society in general would not only find out but also treat her & her family as some sort of lepers & want nothing more to do with the family.
As she grew older at times of great need for herself to be free & express her true self, she would do this in secret to prevent her family from finding out. Although for many years her family never knew, they did realise that something was different with her & because she could/would not talk to them about her troubles & worries, they were therefore afraid to also raise the subject with her. This led her family to conclude that their son was gay; this not only turned out as a surprise to her but also a big shock to them when they discovered that their son is really a TS female & had wanted to live her true life for so long.
After moving away from her family home & being able to buy clothes for her true self along with her illusion. This made her life more bearable although she was still doing it in secret, for fear of her landlords/ladies from finding out & her from being transphobically abused or asked to leave her accommodation/home.
After qualifying as a psychiatric nurse & moving to London, where having her own/hospital accommodation gave her the freedom to live her life as she wanted without any fear of transphobic abuse/bullying as she was either living on her own without any worries of being discovered or she had the protection of hospital policies that gave her protection from being abused, harassed or bullied for who she is. Although living in privately rented accommodation she had no protection & when discovered she was asked by the owner if she could not dress unsexed instead & not as a female owing to the fact that the owner lived there & didn’t want the neighbours from finding out a TS female lived there. This felt like she was being asked to close the stable door after the horse had bolted, (going back into hiding & denying herself), because of this it led to her internal struggle/fight reaching breaking point & her going out with the intension of committing suicide, however this had the opposite effect for she realised that she had to be true to herself & allowed her illusion/fraudulent lie to float away on the river Thames.
After finally coming out to the world in March 2003, she spent a number of years living in hospital/key worker accommodation without any fear from her fellow flat mates as both had policies & contracts that protected her.
When she was finally able to return to work in her true gender, she changed site location & professional role although she has remained within the same NHS trust. Her first few months were still anxious with meeting different people, yet she was finding it easier as time went by for she was being accepted as a female not only with her direct colleges but also individual who came to the office or spoke to her on the phone. She found that she was able to interact with people because of this acceptance far more openly than before accepting herself & coming out. Instead of being an introverted, frightened fraudulent lie of a male; as a female she was becoming more confident, assertive, outgoing & able to make new friends, while still keeping a few who knew her from before & who commented on how much brighter & happier she is now.
This acceptance made her realise that there were others who needed support & guidance. She therefore requested to become the unions LGBT rep & even though she was told that people would therefore know she was out, her own reply was that she could not be more out after accepting herself for who she is & the fact that she has a right to be true to herself by letting others know she’s really a female & proud of it.
During this time she became involved in a local government LGBT support group & was asked if she would like to participate in the production of a DVD for the local law society on the harassment/bullying of LGB colleges within the workplace. She has also appeared on the front cover of a Department of Health book for the NHS called Trans, ‘A practical guide for the NHS.’
As her trusts only know TS, she realized that when they started doing Gender Diversity Training for the staff that there was probably no one more suited to cover the area regarding transgender & especially about transsexuals than her. She has since done a number of talks within the trust in the hope & knowledge that the discussions given by her has led to staff having a better understanding of how a TS fe/male struggles through life & work.
This has also helped her to understand how hard it is for individuals without any or little knowledge to understand what it’s like for a TS fe/male suffering, having to live a constant fraudulent lie, afraid to let others know because of the stigma, transphobic discrimination & abuse. As she has also become aware that these same attitudes will remain within communities, business, religious groups & the NHS, that hopefully individuals will become more accepting that gender is not just what we are born like fe/male but also how our genetic mind develops before birth.
As a TS female who struggled for 32 years with a deformity & awaits her gender surgery, she accepted that she has a right to live her life & be dammed with societies expectations of the stereotypical female, for she is who she is & proud of being a female that’s different.

The hopes of a transsexual female.

Women have a unique gift of being able to bring life to this world. As a TS & hopefully soon to be trans woman if she could of given birth & been a biological mother, her choices in life would of been simpler & made sooner rather than later. For after applying for her Gender Recognition Certificate & having all the rights of a genetic female, to give birth & be a mother, is a wish that as a little girl she had hoped for, but know understands that this wish will never be achieved for her, but perhaps in the future with scientific & medical research this may be possible for other transsexuals, to experience this wonderful joy. She however realises that she will go to her grave having missed a wonderful opportunity of experiencing such joy.

A caterpillar within her real life chrysalis waiting to burst free.

My partner is a transexual & trust me she went thru alot of discrimination before she met me - now she works in my property company - looks amazing and has helped me to make a clear million in profit .
I'm good looking drive a bentley & would stand by her no matter what , and I'm a very well known hardman in London .
So it goes to prove times are changing !

DSG - Murphy Taylor was one of the names used last year by a troll. It's best not to encourage them by reacting to their posts which are not views that they genuinly believe in but are intended to upset or cause a reaction.

jezz.. why arguing, just be happy with yourself but any regret by doing transgender is them self, yet my thought is if they still a human, their have right to be treated as human not mentioning that you all less intelligent or what. Just think, it is part of human nature as long there a solution.

Hello Simmo, I think that your attitude like some many others is all wrong & that you are showing your ignorance & narrow minded sight & lack of knowledge.
I have found many that are like you with your attitude but might are just afraid, not of the transgender community but of yourselves.
Its individuals like you that cause us special individuals to have problems yet if you kept those vile remarks to yourselves our lives would be so much better.
It arragant individuals like you who cause so many problems in this world for people in my situation. Why don't you wear a sign saying I'm a trouble maker & I have transphobic issues, or are you afraid there could be more hidde3n away & scared to say!!

Hello Simmo, I think that your attitude like some many others is all wrong & that you are showing your ignorance & narrow minded sight & lack of knowledge.
I have found many that are like you with your attitude but might are just afraid, not of the transgender community but of yourselves.
Its individuals like you that cause us special individuals to have problems yet if you kept those vile remarks to yourselves our lives would be so much better.
It arragant individuals like you who cause so many problems in this world for people in my situation. Why don't you wear a sign saying I'm a trouble maker & I have transphobic issues, or are you afraid there could be more hidde3n away & scared to say!!

You know,I have nothing against transexuals or transvestites but about two months ago I got the number 196 which goes straight into London centre.A person got on and sat next to me,the only available seat.It was a man but obviously a cross-dresser or a man waiting for gender re-assignment.He had unisex clothing,long hair and bet Lynch type earings on both ears.Now this would not have bothered me in the least but the people getting on and off must have thought that this was my "bird".Such persons must practice discretion.

I'm a pre-op ts working for the NHS in London.
For many years I was afraid to accept the truth about myself due to the risk of being abused, tormented, disowned, loosing my job & being arrested.
Since coming out whilst working for the NHS, I have only had a couple of problems, of which most of those have been out in the community with teenagers.
The Trust that I work for has started going single sexed & are looking at gender diversity. This has also lead to them looking at how they treat & deal with the transgender community & educationing staff. I have given 2 talks about what it's like being a transgendered individual.
One of the areas that is being looked at is when admitted to hospital with single sexed wards where do you place a pre op ts.
This caterpillar is waiting for the butterfly to burst free.

I have the up-most respect for the Transgender Community, it takes a brave person to go through not only go through years of torture and bullying from an ignorant society, but to actually realise ones identity and go through years of Psychotherapy and Surgery to get the body you want (Not just outside but inside) takes a lot of courage and determination.

Judging a book by its cover eh? You may not stupid, but you are foolish.
I respects trans-sexuals greatly, I think it requires a great deal of courage to do what they do, simply because of fools like yourself. Believe me, these people have more strength of character than you do. And as for "the rights of all those people that are sickened by your actions and appearance", tell me, what rights are those?

I believe that all these misfits of nature should display some form of identification on an outer garment. You are frightening to the eye and I personally feel very uncomfortable upon the sight of some of you.

Don't bother going into depth about understanding and attempt to make me of low intelligence for I'm not. Stop spouting on about your rights, what about the rights of all those people that are sickened by your actions and appearance?

I don't care if people are transexuals or not, as long as they don't overdo it on the make up and only wear short skirts if they have nice legs. That rule applies to all females, regardless of whether they are biologically born females or not.

Poor Sian Griffiths... I'm sure many of us will feel sympathy for the poor chap's evident lack of intelligence and education. Does he understand the difference between transsexuals and transvestites, I wonder ? Does he not realise that he wouldn't even notice the more successful transsexuals as they pass him by in the street - he'd probably be too busy leering and slobbering. He sees the least successful "trannies" and lumps everyone together in the same boat.
I am a post-op transsexual. I paid for my operation myself. I have a job, I have children, I'm considered to be very pretty and feminine, I climb mountains, paraglide, hang-glide, ski, snowboard, windsurf, rollerblade long distances. I'm probably twice as intelligent as Sean, three times more presentable and 10 times happier. Nor do I feel the need to insult others as he seems to do. Poor Sian is a twit.

Im sure transexals do exist, Ive seen them with their bad taste in womens clothing, their five o clock shadows, their huge adams apples, their size 13 feet, the hair on their legs showing through their vile american tan tights, their hands like shovels etc etc, yes, they do exist, and Im glad they do, because they are entertaining for the well adjusted people of society, what else could we laugh at while drinking our Latte's outside a Cafe. Thanks Trannies, you make us laugh like drains!

I once had a man tell me it was a womans world because we can wear what ever we want....I think he was trying to tell me how difficult it was for him to cross dress, but I took such offence to his at the time witless seeming words I told him he was an idiot! Forgive me, but I was nineteen at the time! I think there needs to be a "new face of Trans-gender". If more people are educated, less hate crimes will be committed. I have found that as the "New Face of Domestic Violence" myself. Good Luck!

One of my best friends is transexual and it took them allot of courage to come out to me , I am really proud of them for not being ashamed of who they are . I think that society in general doesn't have as musch acceptance for transexuals as they do for LBG people and we need to get this issue out in the open so that we can stop the discrimination.

If I thought it was worthwhile I'd say something about 'women's clothing' and why the concept exists when many women wear clothing that is traditionally thought of as male - jeans, pullovers etc. Whether it is down to an excessive genderisation of our society which views the male as the standard and anything else (female or TS or TV) as a deviation from that, and who it is that thinks women are required to wear short skirts and high heels to 'fit in' in some way.

The Muysli, are you a Daily Mail reader by any chance? It all seems to come down to money for you. How do you feel about disabled people getting a monthly visit from a sex worker, paid for by the State? I expect you're against that too.

Born again woman, well said. There are some extremely low inteligence individuals in the world and it would seem that a few of them found this page. Ignore them, for they know nothing about this subject

Hi, I'm a transsexual person. After reading many of these comments I find that some are rather insiteful, discriminative, antisocial & the individuals that have made these comments are more afraid of admitting about their own gender issues for they are afraid how society will view them.

The others are accepting that we now live in a multi-cultured, multi-racial, multi-gender society & I commend them for their acceptance that evryone is an individual who has a right to life.

I spent a long time hiding the fact that I was a transgender individual. This lead to me having a shy, boring, depressing, isolated life. For 38 years I only showed society half a person, for all they saw was the empty shell, a deformed vessel that failed to fit the essence of a female mind.

Since accepting the fact that I am a female trapped inside a deformed body I have developed as a female & a better person. I have more friends, go out more, an active member of the union & generally have an active life.

Before some of those bigots say anything, yes I do work & it's for the NHS. I can only say that the Trust that I work for have been very supportive of myself. I have worked for this Trust both as a male & female.