Internet dating sites did not work for me. The women I encountered were either workaholics with no time to date or imbeciles that said they would call but never did. Or, I would be "stood up" at a prearranged date or if I ever met anyone, they arrived unkempt & slovenly & smelled of garbage. Usually, the women wanted all of the positive attributes of a man with none of the negative.

we are not all the same u know..there are some genuine ones out there.lol

I've observed a friend of mine as she has gone through a succession of internet dates. She is an attractive and successful girl in her late 30's with a lively personality and an interesting background. I suspect that her relative success, independence, and the fact that she has opinions of her own have put off a lot of men since they seem to prefer doormats.

Her 'dates' have all fallen into one or more of the following categories :
Socially crippled
Blatantly sexually frustrated and only wanting sex
Mummy's boys
Braggarts
Self obsessed
Losers

The best (I am being sarcastic) was the guy who when she asked him to tell her about himself said : "I drive a BMW".

That said, many of the men she's met in real life have not been much better which is why, at 40, she prefers to remain single.

I've had loads of dates through internet dating and have experienced the best and the worst that it can throw at you. I've also had three flings as a result, of which I'm grateful (although frustrated that none of them worked out). It can be very demoralising as it makes you realise just how shallow and superficial a lot of people are. Some people these days won't even acknowledge your existence unless you fit into their concept of an ideal man exactly.

I'm determined to find myself a partner, but if internet dating is the best I can hope for then it's going to be a long, hard slog to the finish line.

I found my perfect match on mocospace.com. we are now happily married and I have a 10 month old step son named ashton. some dont work and some do. Its all about how you present yourself and how they present themselfs.

There are good and bad sites, Match.com has worked for me as I am in a great relationship but we would have never met as both self employed and work extremely hard. However I was a member of some "lets get it on" sites and found that the women were on there either to have their egos massaged by pervs, couldn't travel or accomodate and in the worst cases weren't even real people but scammers just interested in getting card details off you. So beware don't use benaughty.com or other sites of this style unless you fancy being ripped off. (my card details never revealed as not stupid)

Many gripes: Most men don't include photo but insist you do.All men put one nice photo of themselves 10 plus years and 80 pounds less as first and then the way they look now.It very deceitful and I find it shocking. I said I was looking for men 5feet7 to six and 99 percent of men were 6feet2.I didn't know there were so many giants!! As it stands now, haven't met anyone yet because none in nearly 200 from the 6000 that emailed me put a photo.Why so many camera shy? Do they want to meet nice lady or not?? Show some respect for yourself and the lady and post photo.Otherwise you wasting her time and yours.

The “good looking” ones have a real attitude problem. I am not jealous of them, or anything like that. I sent this one person a message via the chat room. “Nice picture, your very attractive” I said, and in turn she called me a pervert! Really, do you think so? So WHY is your picture in full view for the world to see if your touchy about people passing comment?

"Nice picture, YOU'RE very attractive"......and ".....for the world to see if YOU'RE touchy....."
Thank you for correct English usage.

Have got a solution to sort the problems out to make them do it properly warn the people that they do know is playing games no messing by saying anymore game playing and your wiped off and if they don't do that then take the company's to court because it really destroys in what it can do to the genuine one's like it as me Andrew Newby

I found my Fiance 15,000km away over the internet. Been living together for 1 year now and are getting hitched next year. Getting to know someone as a friend for almost a year before you even meet has been the best foundation for an amazing friendship and love.

it worked for me , found someone after 4 weeks , got married six months later, we have been married 8 months now,and my wives 4 months pregnant , so if you be yourself on these sites you never know whats round the corner

I was on a dating site for the first time in my life a few weeks ago. I as suggested go involved with the forums. One guy got a thread pulled for asking a question about women's periods. I asked why this had happened and thought freedom of speech was still alive and well. I came in from work yesterday to find my whole profile pulled! Now if that's not Big Brother I don't know what is. I wasn't trying to ensite racial hatred or anything, just stating that everyone is entitled to free speech! I am disgusted by this. What's the point of having a forum if you're not allowed to have an opinion????

I met my partner 2 years ago on plenty of fish and we had a beautiful baby girl together in January 2008. I would recommend it.

Internet Dating really is a joke these days. It may have started out on a more sincere note but has really deteriorated over the years attracting all kinds of flakey people who just want to waste other peoples time. I think eBay should buy up and run all the dating sites that way there would be rules and people would get banned for inappropriate behavior. End of Story!

With attitudes like that no wonder a lot of men are giving up on the whole thing. Women obviously prefer each other's company so why don't they just come out (as it were) and say it. I am not so desperate for a date that I would risk running into any of this lot.

Kim you should answer his ad like in that song, you know, 'somethingsomething pinacoladas and getting caught in the rain'. no? aw. and then crack him in the head when he actually goes through with it to meet up with you, cause men do mean 'screw' by 'date'

Kim you should answer his ad like in that song, you know, 'somethingsomething pinacoladas and getting caught in the rain'. no? aw. and then crack him in the head when he actually goes through with it to meet up with you, cause men do mean 'screw' by 'date'

Unfortunately, there indeed are a lot of people online who portray themselves as someone or somebody they're not on this dating websites. I wouldn't necessarily call them freaks, but simply some very sorry misguided individuals with serious self-esteem issues! Look before you leap my friends, and understand that all that glitters isn't gold, which is to say if it looks and/or sounds too good to be true, there's a very good chance it probably is too good to be true...

just found my boyfriend on a dating site been together for 5yrs, help.

Anon, you found your wife on a dating site... after you married her, or before?