Why does she want a divorce?

Sometimes you just can't explain it. When you date when you are young you don't always want to be with the same person so you "dump" them and move on. Just because you marry someone doesn't mean to say you will be live happilly ever after. I have been married for 25 years and have spent the last 10 trying to break free. My husband simply won't discuss it. This evening we were supposed to be going out so I thought - "Good a chance to talk" as he always wriggles out of it at home. Now he has found out I want to talk about our relationship and he no longer wants to go out and disappeared to have a bath. Why will he not confront this issue? We are not happy and I really need to talk to him about it rather than through solicitors. I don't see that you should have grounds for divorce. Isn't falling out of love enough?

Marriage is an old fashioned custom and the most unnatural pact a person could make. To commit yourself to one person for the rest of your life, is this right? I'm sure some marriages remain strong but, how many of those can actually put their hand up and say they are happy?

I don't understand why she would prefer to be on her own either, doesn't ring right. May be she is contact with her first love. Like you wrote, this was all very sudden.

I went away for the weekend with the lads the misses was so happy at the time she was gonna spend it with her family. I come back and thats was that said she didn't love me any more and wanted me out the house. Hurting my self seemed the only option at the time but have two kids and not giving her the satisfaction.

I have been marriaged to my husband for two years, and we have three children together he intends to think that I'm cheating on him and will always be a lair yes I have lied to him about not paying a bill but never cheated on him, Yes he has cheated on me and I have forgive him but I won't forget, He has Bipolar and not taking any medicine for this, He wants a divorce and would like for me to leave the home and leave the children with can anyone out there relate to me with this it's a long short and I have little to type.

Does a law saying that I have to leave if he wants the divorce.

My husband left me one week ago. Next week we'll be married for three years. I felt he was moving away from me for a long time but was too scared to do anything about it (denial?). I have been suffering from clinical depression most of my life and I think it has contributed to his wanting out of the marriage. He has agreed to marriage counselling because he believes it will help us both get through this and come out a better person, not because he wants to save the marriage. I will hang on to whatever hope I have left (denial?) until the papers are signed. I love my husband dearly. He is the love of my life and a wonderful person. I don't know how I'm supposed to get through this.

Weman are emotional roller coasters.I have not had sex with my wife for over 6 months.

Why is marriage even used any more is the question. It was ment to bind 2 people to work as 1 in the past. Today that has changed to if you changed your mind divorce his ass. Men get the raw end of the shaft each time.

When I seen this I sead yep looks like me. Problem is a woman is a girl that can't think for both sides that is her side and the male side. Marriage has no value if both are not willing to see the other change and grow as we do as time moves along. Girls are after that white knight. Then you watch the storie that they lived happly ever after... that is what the girls are after but its a hopfull dream. Needs have to be meet. Change is needed. I have now decided if I get maried again I will have a open marage. will this mean I will get maried again lol not at all. I sead if.. I will have gilrs but no tied down.. She still wants to devorce me but thear is no cause for it.thear has to be a reason. selling the house would only add to a det you have gained having a house...

Well im a 36 year old mother of 3 little ones, and my husband left me 3 months ago and has filed for a divorce.
I miss my husband very much,and have cried every day for 3 months, which is not healthy...but the amount of people that knew us both who have told me how miserable I was in the relationship has blown me away....because I only miss the good things, having someone to come home to,having a lover,feeling secure, knowing that someone loved me...I dont miss the selfish parts, he stopped me from having a social life of my own, was very controlling, selfish, he would always put himself first, he had no ambition, wouldnt just cuddle me without it leading to sex...the list goes on....
When someone leaves us we tend to remember the good, not the bad.Write yourself a list of all the things that your wife did that you didnt like....there have to be a few,and im not saying that you should hate her, I will always love my ex, but reading the list will show you your differences that would have maybe torn you apart anyway, or made your lives together,had she of stayed,well, unbearable.
Im hurting just as you are, its a pain I wouldnt wish on anyone,but if I get through it then I will be a better person,and so will you....dont wonder about why she left...who cares? She is gone, and you need to dust yourself off,and realise what an awesome guy you are in your own right,and definately spend sometime without a significant other,go out,and have fun,buy something that you couldnt before but you always wanted,laugh, love and LIVE...she is the loser here,not you !!! I wish you well through this ordeal...

I'm 31 yrs old, married and with a 15 mnth baby. We have been together for 11 years. I am thinking of separating from my husband b/c we don't seem to work anymore. I read the comments of others and I can echo similiar disappointments in my husband and in myself. I am very unsure. I am very overwhalmed. I know I am not comfortable and I am unhappy and I have been this way for more than a year. We have our good streaks, but I want more than that. . . I love my husband. He is an extremely good man. It is just when we are together there are times that I can't breathe and I feel so alone and so put down and so misunderstood. We talk alot and he doesn't really understand the way I need him to understand and ultimately react/adapt. It is hard to say to him that I am disappointed with him b/c I know he might be just as disappointed in me, if not more and I am the one who is being weak, but I thought of him as so perfect and I admired him and well, . . . I don't know what to do and I am one to employ solutions. In my heart I don't want to separate, but we haven't had the change we need so, maybe separation is a good reasource. There are just so many things in play. I am sorry you are angery. My husband is probably too, but it is all a process and no matter what anyone tells you, have faith in the love you have for your wife, try to understand her and no matter the outcome, be sure to give it your best shot.

Been there, still there, 11 years, and bang, yes it is a huge shock and your life does fall apart, and nothing seems to help, everyone says time will heal and things will get better, and I guess one day they will. I have questioned myself for 12 months and I still don't know the answer, there is no logic to anything, I provided (at least thought) everything, I work hard I put her first, and I guess sometimes things just don't work. It doesn't make it any easier to be angry, I try and just be as positive as I can, try and look at things from her perspective, try and understand that she felt it was the "right" thing to do, whilst it broke my heart and still does, fortunately life goes on and I deal with it in a different way everyday, and oneday I will have a day when I don't think of her, then I will know I am getting over it.

I am a 25 year old woman who has had three kids with my husband. For the past 4 years out of the 7 (yeah do the math) we've been married it has all been a big "show." I pretend that we are happy in front my family and his. I am tired of being the strong one to keep things together. I want to live my life for me and my kids, with out my husband. It's just not there anymore for me even though I know how much he loves me, I cannot go on and "pretend" anymore. My family loves him and it will be hard. What I am trying to say is, let her leave... why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?? As much as you are angry right now, think of how happy you will be in the long run.

I love my husband.... very much.....and I know that he loves and cares for me, BUT... I don't feel like he "likes" me. He does not respect my taste or opinion and often uses a tone with me as if I am a moron. He is often negative about what interests me, that they are unimportant and threatens that I will need to stop if should "he" decide it is a financial burden on our family. Mind you, I am really quite frugal children and home come first. Then there is bedtime, which is (pretty much) the only time he says he loves me. He wants to have sex and I am feeling it is just because I am "convenient". He does not enjoy kissing and foreplay is pretty much non-existent. I am respectful of his "needs" nine times out of ten, whether I am into it or not. I feel as if I have become a second class citizen in his eyes.

Done it seen it read the book and starred in the film, life is for living my man. My wife kicked me out and it hurt like hell for a while but time is a healer. There are some good women out there that will appreciate you, now i've got a good woman. Good hunting