CSA, guilty until proven innocent
16-March-2010
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Does that sound like you?  I’m a hard working person that comes from a hard working family.  I decided to head off into the big wide world of life, meeting new people on my way.  I met a girl and had a 'thing' with her for a few weeks.  She sadly dumped me, telling me she wanted to see other people.  Yet she would still get drunk and knock on my door late at night.

She got pregnant, and pointed the finger at a guy she was sleeping with.  I moved on with my life, not giving it a second thought...  Then one year later a brown envelope came through my door.  It said that I was a non-resident parent and I had to fill out a few forms about my financial situation.  I went to seek legal help, and they said I had to do it.  I shouted from the rooftops that this kid wasn’t mine, but I have to come up with £200 for a DNA test.  I can only just pay my bills and if proved I am the father, I have to pay 15% of my income after tax.

A father with his baby, The CSA, Guilty until proven innocent.

How can people sleep at night knowing that men are being treated in this fashion, like a walking wallet?  Kids would never starve or be mistreated if we didn’t pay.  The government would help them.  So why are they playing on the heartstrings of the population?  In my situation I am being taxed for something I had no intention of bringing into this world.  She had a choice, and if she were honest from day one, things might have worked out differently.  We could have talked about it, and weighed up the options.

I don’t sleep; I lost a woman I love.  All because of the stress and torment this situation is providing.  I’m refusing to pay because I am in essence being held at an immoral gunpoint.  In retrospect yes there is a child, yes it could be mine and yes it has a life and has a right to have a father.  But I never wanted a child at this point in my life, she did.  For being immoral this woman now has an easy life.  Bring up a kid on the social, come up with excuses so she never has to work and there she will be.  No questions asked.

Why are we letting society go in this direction?  We are after all British, we have won wars and many other countries model themselves on us! Isn’t it about time to get rid of this unfair system, which must surely be against human rights?  I’m pretty sure that there are a lot of guys out there that really love kids and wont be able to relate to me.  But I’ll say to the others, your not alone guys!

To the mothers that are pointing fingers and thinking that you can get a free trip in life – Watch out, because the tables will turn!

By: thefox01


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Been there re, your discussions with dad from Gloucester, if it wasn't for careless sex over the years, most of us wouldn't be here at all,

When single mothers earn their keep, and let all the non resident fathers see their kids, I will shut up on this subject.

Until that day, keep your computer switched on and keep your keyboard on your lap,
*Gainsborough lad.  13-Mar-2010 22:00

 
dad from gloucester,
God can't help you males now. The use of a condom could have done.
*Been there  13-Mar-2010 13:37

 
same happened to me, they chose to have the baby they should support it, most of us fathers dont get a choice are are simply tagets for the goverment to claim there money back as they know income support was a mistake!!! god help us males
*dad from gloucester  13-Mar-2010 11:51

 
Frank, but the CSA and the government have played on this, and used it as an excuse to take bankers bonus type amounts of cash off fathers, who are then not allowed to see their kids,

The fathers child when it comes to cash, but the mothers when it comes to access.
*Gainsborough lad.  23-Feb-2010 21:22

 
If you actually knew anything about having children you would see that it is not a free trip and why do you act like you played no part whatsoever in creating life, thats it, it is someone else's fault you are not to blame for anything, unfair system? its people like you that mean a system like this is created. You mention human rights? what about the rights of the child that is who you should be thinking of not yourself and your wallet, British? Society? people like you? hardly innocent?
*frank  23-Feb-2010 20:50

 
Paul, typical of the CSA, they take cash off you for your child with ex number one, but fail to get any cash for your kids from ex number two, A moral organisation would waive deductions for ex number one, as it fails to get you anything at all from ex number two,

But the CSA are not moral at all, are they?
*Gainsborough lad.  28-Jan-2010 21:45

 
Hi I feel exactly the same as you friend, I got my first girlfriend pregnant just as we split, 6 month down the line I got a phone call from her parents, I denied it was mine as the reason why we split was due to her sleeping around. When the baby was born I got the envelope had the dna test was this stated the child was mine, At this point I asked for access she denied me any but I still to this day 16 years later have to pay csa, Even tho I have never seen the child in my life or had any input, In the meantime I went on with life had 2 more children split up with the partner but got full care of my 2 kids in court, Their mother does not work so she pays 5 pound a week csa because she is to lazy to get a job, Im struggling as a single father of 2 with a mortgage and the csa take 30% off my wage no matter how much I earn by Deduction of earnings, I have asked for a reassesment and am still waiting 3 months later for the outcome of this, Its so wrong !!!.
*Paul Greenare  28-Jan-2010 16:40

 
Its not just the mothers fault the csa take what they want and some mothers are not getting all of it. I have gone three weeks without any maintenance which shuld be £56.00 a week. The father has had £90.00 and £136.00 took off him in the last 2 weeks and struggling to pay his own bills. Were is the money he is paying for his kids?
*skint Hellen  14-Jan-2010 11:32

 
They are all loving it! Watching us all scrimp and scrape a living whilst they play god. Stealing money from us. No Human Rights, No Democracy, Enforcement at all costs, because our Great leader and former chancellor has 'bust' the country and now has to recapture the monies he has lost because of his policies. We will all suffer. The latest one to steal money from us is adding money onto traffic fines to pay for the services for the victims of crime. Yeah! Right! we believe you! Stealing money from motorists yet again to fill the black hole left in the finances by using the 'golden rule' and 'I commend this budget to the house'. Get the bulldozers out and lets start afresh with honest, decent people!
*Panther  02-Jan-2010 11:38

 
thedog01 she wont have to pay anything back because she is a woman and this country makes the rules to ensure all she will get as punishment if she gets caught is a few hours community service and shes still got her free lunch off us taxpayers.
*Turnaround Betty.  02-Jan-2010 08:24

 
thefox01 I have a simular problem mate my xwife has £200.00 pound a month off me uses the money I give her for my daughter to pay car loan,she is up for a bg shock as shes is a singer part time weekends and PAYS NO TAX I WILL SHOP HER CANT WAIT TILL THEY CATCH UP WITH HER MATE.,..
*thedog01  01-Jan-2010 22:45

 
you chose to sleep with this women and now you have to pay the price, if you didnt want a child you should of wore a condom, and if she told you that she was 'on the pill' well its your on stupid thought for trusting her. pay for your child and stop thinking of yourself.
*joke  07-Dec-2009 14:04


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