Weekend dad can't be bothered

well my daughers dad sees them about twice a year, he constantly lets them down making promises he cant deliver. also he asks me to pay for petrol on the few occasions he does bother to see them. he is however suffering from seizures and is on medication for them. this has now been the case 5 years on, the doctors cannot cure him. I am sympathetic however it doesnt seem fair on my children to grow up without him. he chose to live 300 miles away from them close to his mother =( I am doing a degree atm to try and offer my girls a better future one day.

well my daughers dad sees them about twice a year, he constantly lets them down making promises he cant deliver. also he asks me to pay for petrol on the few occasions he does bother to see them. he is however suffering from seizures and is on medication for them. this has now been the case 5 years on, the doctors cannot cure him. I am sympathetic however it doesnt seem fair on my children to grow up without him. he chose to live 300 miles away from them close to his mother =( I am doing a degree atm to try and offer my girls a better future one day.

similar situation here. Ex wont pay but expects me to drop off/pick p which I did for 3 years but now wont. When he does have her he takes her to the local footy club til 1am and gets plastered. She has been badly injured on 2 occasions when he hasnt been capable of looking after her so now I want to stop him having her. he has become very abusive to me in fron t of her (shes 7) and she cries and says she hates him cos hes mean.......what the hell can I do?
It is such a hard situation but just hope one day (soon) she will see him very clearly for what he is. I want him to disappear forever

Tracy, I love the comment of yours that dads should be forced to look after their kids on a regular basis,

In Sweden, seperated parents have to live close to their kids school and each other as part of divorce agreements,

But sadly over here, the governments over the years have just looked after girl power mafia, and they can do as they please.

I know dead beat dads my son lived with his dad 4 3 and a half year now he has a 19 year old girlfiend who is pregnant he is 37 my son got dummped on my doorstep with nothing but the clothes on his back luckily I had had him every weekend in the time he was at his fathers so have a good relationship with him but we have both found it hard to adjust his dad dosent see him I think it is high time the courts made a law that fathers should be made to have the children on a regular basis obviously only in circumstances where no problems have arose other than dead beat dads

Bat bunny, so in the short two weeks that you were back together, you made baby number two, planned or not, I as a taxpayer will no doubt be paying for it,

£100-00 a week income tax,
£ 30-00 a week national insurance,
£ 30-00 a week driving taxes,
£ 15-00 a week council tax,
£ 10-00 a week VAT on various things,

That should cover your free lunch whilst the child grows up, unless you are going to go out to work full time.

tom you are so sick and I hope you never become a father yourself

I am in a simmilar sittuation except my ex partner has not paid a penny towards his daughter and I am pregnant again by him. he would not want anything to do with our daughter if he was with someone and then when he wasnt he would want me back and so in the end I took him back because I loved him. he left me after 2 weeks for someone else and I found out I was pregnant. since then he has not been bothered about contacting me to see our daughter or even to find out how the pregnancy is going. I know that he has met someone new who has a 4 year old that they do not have custody off and he lives with her after not even an hour. how do I tell my children that their dad is not bothered about seeing them unless I contact him but even then he does not want to see them. he slanders me on facebook too and I still love him will it ever stop I say it will if you just cut him out your life because you have to do whats best for yourself and your daughter

tom you are one sick individual and you should be locked up.

For all of the men out there, this situation is not about the money. If a father moves away. he should make an effort to do transportation. Money is needed to raise a child, but many father's do not chose to see their kids very often. My kids see their Dad 4 nights a month, if one of them gets sick, I am the one who deals with it. He sends all the dirty landry home to me, and is not involved in their school. I feel sorry for him, he is missing out. They are growing up fast, and he can never get this time back. When a woman decideds to have a child, she should always think about the fact that at some point she may become a single parent, and most if not all the responsibility will fall on her!

reffering to the post left by ''daddy'' I couldnt agree more. im a single mum myself but this is something I chose to take on when I split form my ex.
i ahte the way women AND men moan about theyre ex's and how hard done by they are, how they wont share money, parent duties etc....why on earth do you marry these people n the first place? you are makin your childs life hell! in my opinion its always a good idea to makesure BEFORE you have a child that you can afford to pay for this child for the next 18 years WITHOUT anyone elses handouts! if your lucky enough to recieve payments from the absent parent then great, if not -put up an shut up! you chose to have children to that person now deal with it!

dads who dont bother with there kids... where do I start?
i was in a relationship with my ex for 5yrs, I already had a 3yr old who he took on as his own at the time I thought great, we also had another child and everything was fine. when we split he repetedly told my oldest daughter that he was never her dad and that he felt sorry that she didnt have her own dad thats why he said she was his then told her he never wanted anything to do with her which hit her very very hard.
he moved in to a place where he could have our daughter on the weekend to start it was all weekend then went to drop her off at lunch time pick her up at lunch time sunday then it went to having her for 4hours on a sunday,
now he has moved to a place where he cant have children at all and he doesnt see any of them, he moans if I ask him to have her for me as I have my work cut out with my oldest daughter having adhd and asspergers syndrom he has never given me an explination as to why he is behaving like this I just dont contact him any more I gave up.